Embracing Fear: How to Turn What Scares Us into Our Greatest Gift

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Harper Collins, Oct 4, 2005 - Self-Help - 224 pages

It′s Time to Take Back Your Life

Fear takes many forms -- dread, panic, anxiety, self-consciousness, superstition, and negativity -- and manifests itself in many ways -- avoidance, procrastination, judgment, control, and agitation, to name just a few. Whether we are afraid of the dark or being alone, of failure or commitment, of public speaking or flying, fear dominates our lives, affecting nearly every decision we make.

Combining compelling stories from the author′s twenty-five-year practice, examples from his own struggles with addiction and depression, and practical exercises and tools, Embracing Fear does not pretend to teach the impossible and eliminate fear, but rather shows us that once we understand it we can live beyond its tyrannical control. Instead of repressing or ignoring the voices of panic and dread, we learn that it is only through facing, exploring, accepting, and responding to fear that we free ourselves from its paralyzing grip.

 

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As with most popular books written by therapists, Rutledge's includes many anecdotes from his practice. Unlike most, his examples are equally balanced, with accounts of his own challenges and ... Read full review

Contents

The Power of Fear i
1
The Meaning of No Fear
21
Facing Big Fear
37
Getting to Fear
53
of Deserving
73
Lifes Recurring Themes
91
What
109
When Its Time
133
Leaning into the Fear
149
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Page 109 - You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, "I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along." . . . You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Page 3 - The third is freedom from want — which, translated into world terms, means economic understandings which will secure to every nation a healthy peacetime life for its inhabitants — everywhere hi the world. "The fourth is freedom from fear — which, translated into world terms, means a world-wide, reduction of armaments to such a point and in such a thorough fashion that no nation will be in a position to commit an act of physical aggression against any neighbor — anywhere in the world.
Page 57 - God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Page 3 - In the future days, which we seek to make secure, we look forward to a world founded upon four essential human freedoms. The first is freedom of speech and expression — every' where in the world. The second is freedom of every person to worship God in his own way — everywhere in the world.
Page 3 - ... which, translated into world terms, means a world-wide reduction of armaments to such a point and in such a thorough fashion that no nation will be in a position to commit an act of physical aggression against any neighbor anywhere in the world. That is no vision of a distant millennium. It is a definite basis for a kind of world attainable in our own time and generation.
Page 52 - 9/11" refers to the terrorist attacks on the World Trade Center in New York City and the Pentagon in Washington, DC, on September 11, 2001.
Page 91 - Hate is the consequence of fear; we fear something before we hate it; a child who fears noises becomes a man who hates noise.
Page 92 - So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
Page 90 - Freedoms" — freedom of speech, freedom to worship, freedom from want, and freedom from fear...
Page xv - Hence, if there's an action that will lessen the likelihood of a dreaded outcome occurring, and if that action doesn't cost too much in terms of effort or freedom, then take it. The worry about whether we remembered to close the baby gate at the top of the stairs can be stopped in an instant by checking. Then it isn'ta worry anymore; it's just a brief impulse. Almost all worry evolves from the conflict between intuition and inaction.

About the author (2005)

Thom Rutledge has over twenty-five years' experience as a psychotherapist. Thom's trademark sense of humor, a down-to-earth practicality, and his own compassion are the common threads that run throughout his unique brand of self-help psychology. Thom also writes regularly for self-help/recovery publications around the country, including Steps for Recovery (Los Angeles), The Phoenix (Minneapolis), and Recovery Today.

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